We all like to daydream about what the future may hold, but when those prospects consume your thoughts more than the present, there’s a real risk of living your own mental and emotional nightmare. Make [...]
If you haven’t experienced America the Beautiful by rail yet, hop on an Amtrak ASAP for an eye-opening experience that could have you replacing planes as your preferred mode of travel indefinitely. Here are six reasons to book right now.
New relationships are the universe’s way of giving us yet another chance to get it right in the love department – and since none of us are getting younger, it’s wise not to squander it by making the same mistakes over and over. This time around, along with changing toxic behaviors that may have sent your significant other running for the nearest therapist or liquor store, consider cleansing a few areas of your life, tangible and otherwise. Here are a few places to start.
I’ll say it: The past few years have been a fucking nightmare. The climate in this country – and, arguably, the world – is so volatile that it’s a wonder any of us get a [...]
The article below originally appeared as an online post for The Trevor Project, an organization created by the 1998 Academy Award-winning short film "Trevor." Today it is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and [...]
New Year’s Eve is a time to reflect, cleanse and get pumped for starting anew, but that happy train could crash and burn if you don’t avoid these countdown-to-disaster no-nos.
When a friend or family member comes knocking for cash, pause before opening your wallet – because rarely does this situation go off without a hitch. That’s not to say you can’t lend a [...]
Attic treasures are slowly becoming a thing of the past. Many of us are living more efficiently with less clutter lying around the house and barely any room for additional storage anyway. I’ve never [...]
Male pattern baldness for a young gay man can be tough to come to terms with, but rest assured that your hair is only one aspect of your overall appearance and personal style. Instead of [...]
The Frivolist: 7 Pieces of Luxury Fitness Equipment to Satisfying Your Inner Bougie While Working Out
Summer-bod goals crash and burn by the middle of June? Join the club. But perhaps the best thing about fall (besides guys in grey sweatpants!) is that there’s ample time to concentrate more on exercise [...]
Experience Mother Nature’s majesty with these make-a-weekend-out-of-it ways to view stunning displays of fall foliage like never before.
Being alone and being lonely are two different things. While I don’t prefer the latter, I embrace the former. I do a lot of things by myself, in fact. Go to the movies, sit on the beach, pop into a happy hour, enjoy bikes rides, even go on vacation. I also like to treat myself to lunches and dinners out where I can sit in solitude and think, work, or catch up on odds and ends on my to-do list. For those reasons and six more, here’s why eating alone at a restaurant is the best meal you’ll ever have.
When a relationship ends, tensions run high – and the first thing many of us do to satisfy our anger and sadness is to toss or burn the photos, letters and other mementos our partners have given us. This act of aggression won’t solve anything, and, in fact, will only serve to hurt you more later. Quell the temptation to pitch your ex-relationships’ physical reminders with these five reasons to hold onto them.
When social networks first gained popularity – back in the days of AOL chat rooms – it was exciting, fun, and a generally positive experience. For LGBT people like us, it existed as an outlet where we could be ourselves without fear of discovery and ridicule from the outside world.
I hear this complaint all the time: “I never have enough money.” Truth is, we’ve all been there, but while some of us choose to confront the situation head on to get out of that rut, others continue the paycheck-to-paycheck lifestyle for a number of reasons. What are they? Find out where you fit in here.
You can take the easy way out when the going gets tough in your relationship (and you should if you don’t love your partner anymore), but there’s plenty of value and payoff in sticking the hard times out and trying to make it work. How you do that is up to you – there’s no right or wrong way – but these tips on putting the pieces of shattered partnership back together again are a great place to start.
In my other life as a gay personal finance expert, I write a lot about saving money, but what about time? That’s worth something too, especially if you can save more of it by eliminating [...]
I have had some relationships, y’all. None of them went super great. Hence why we’re not still together. But I’ve managed to make friends out of all but one of those boys – four [...]
Roseanne Barr knows how to keep tongues wagging. From her infamous bungling of "The Star-Spangled Banner" and my-way-or-the-highway tyranny on the set of her groundbreaking sitcom to her failed presidential bid and accusation that Ireland (yes, the whole darn country) is anti-Semitic, the self-proclaimed domestic goddess has been a controversial pop-culture mainstay for more than 30 years.
A lot of people vacay in big cities or by the beach. Not me. I’ve lived near both all my life, so when I plan a getaway I want to pack it with come-as-you-are, in-the-wild [...]
One of the best parts of my job as an LGBT lifestyle expert is discovering all the dynamic new people, places and things expected to interest the LGBT community. Some do, some don't - I [...]
Let color-blocked brightness, tropical prints and kaleidoscope statement accessories - plus a few spots of leather - help elevate your boardwalk swag this summer of '16. 'Pineappleade' Gold Leather Slip-Ons Unsuspecting hand grenades masquerading as [...]
Being gay and an extrovert seems to go hand-in-hand. Many of us have an innate ability to connect with others that makes being outgoing look effortless, but the truth is, sometimes we need a break [...]
Visit a gym in any major city and you'll quickly pick up on the local "culture." You know what I'm talking about. New York and Los Angeles, specifically, are notorious for the goings-on in its [...]
Getting a well-deserved kickback from the IRS this year? Spend your tax refund gay-ly with these fey ways to enjoy that new stash of cash. 1. Spend the weekend at a 'family'-style campground Your idea [...]
Hard time keeping your hands out of the cookie jar this winter? Polish off those last few Oreos then set your sights on spring with these easy-to-integrate activities that'll have you sweating and shedding in [...]
Reading list getting stale as we head into spring? Freshen it up with these nine LGBT novels, anthologies and web serials to make the winter blues melt away. Kept by Jim Arnold Young gay men [...]
Thirsty for Oscar? Watch the 88th Academy Awards go down in history - and hashtags (#becausesomebodyshadworkdone) - with these quenching cocktail recipes inspired by this year's nominees and Hollywood's biggest night. Red Carpet Ready 4 [...]
Valentine's Day can mean a pretty penny out of pocket for many couples. Jewelry, flowers and a fancy dinner at the hottest resto in town add up quickly, but in a lot of ways these [...]
If you're consciously uncoupled (or just got dropped like a bad habit) this Valentine's Day, make the most of your single status with these eight ways to tell Cupid to shove it. Drown Your Sorrows [...]
'Round my parts in New York City, winter's been a breeze so far. Seventy degrees on Christmas Eve? I'll take it. But I don't expect the New Year to be as cooperative. When the post-holiday [...]
Santa checked his list twice for who's naughty and nice so your Christmas is filled with sugar - and now some spice. Slaphappy Flat Vibrator Marketed as the Swiss Army knife of vibrators (which, granted, [...]
When the weather outside is frightful, your DVD player is delightful with this fortnight of holiday flicks that appeal to gay and lesbian sensibilities. Home for the Holidays Claudia Larson (Holly Hunter) navigates dysfunctional family [...]
Last year, I wrote a rather pointed column for the Frivolist called "9 Reasons Why Coming Out on a Holiday Isn't a Good Idea," which detailed the consequences of revealing your sexuality at an already [...]
Before the ghoulish parties kick off and trick-or-treaters roam the night, curl up with your own special cuddle monster for these scary TV-and-movie marathons sure to give a fright. FearFest, AMC Now's your chance to [...]
Hot horror movie villains are hard to come by - what with all the blood and guts that usually characterize those that terrorize - but there are a few smokin' standouts in the genre. Settle [...]
Pop the corn, grab a blanket, and cozy into your favorite couch cushion for this selection of new-season shows featuring LGBT characters we can root for. 'The Real O'Neals,' CBS The O'Neals have a secret; [...]
It's back-to-school season, and you know what that means, kids: nine glorious months of academic angst pining for that dreamboat professor. But if you don't have the pleasure of sizing up the hunks destined to [...]
By Diane Anderson-Minshall Let me tell you about a woman I met. Let's call her Trina. On the surface, we have some similarities. A woman of color and a bottle blonde, Trina grew up feeling [...]
Feeling more Marilyn Manson than Marilyn Monroe lately? Trade in that rut for swagger and strut with these seven positive ways to shake things up when your spirits are down. Diversify your group of friends [...]
Slip on your swimsuit, break out the blender and pump up the jams. Today you're kickin' it poolside with a freshly selected and eclectic playlist that screams fun in the sun. 'Summertime,' DJ Jazzy Jeff [...]
Just because summer is cause to shed the confines of clothing to celebrate the skin you're in, reality is, we can't go commando everywhere. For those times that you legally have to cover your bits, [...]