By Jody Valley
Two for the price of one
Q: I have been working at my job for about 3 years. I really like what I do and who I work with. I feel very fortunate that I have a job that I can be totally out and that I like. I know many people are not that fortunate, either having a job or being able to be out in it.
My problem is that I am totally overwhelmed by the amount of work I have to do, and I don’t know what to do about the problem. I was recently given a promotion and was told that another person would be hired to do part of my duties that I do now. The problem is that this has not been done, that is, that no one has been hired. So now, instead of one job, I am doing my old job, along with my new job. There is no way I can do two jobs very wellÑor even keep up with anything. Plus, I am not even being trained for my new job; I’m just being thrown into it.
I was busy before and would not have taken on this additional responsibility if I had known that I would not be receiving extra help, and not have some training. (I do know most of the job, but surely not all of it.) Now that I have accepted this job, I don’t know what to do because my supervisor keeps saying that she is trying to get the CEO to OK another part-time position. Who knows when, or if, that will happen? In the meantime, I am one person stuck with trying to do two jobs. I don’t know what to do or which way to turn, and I feel like a fool for taking this job before I had the extra help. By the way, I am a person that tends to be an over achiever and this situation is driving me crazy.
Overwhelmed and Overworked
A. The company you are working for has certainly put you in a no-win situation. Hindsight is always 20/20, so you probably already realize it would have been better if the extra help had been confirmed before you accepted the job. Right now, if I were you, I would go to your supervisor and explain the problem and your feelings that you are having about this dilemma. Or, if you have e-mail available, you might want to e-mail her so you have a written record of your concerns. Good luck.
Happiness in the end
Readers: A happy ending is sure a nice way to end a year and welcome in a new one. With that in mind, here’s a writer who wrote to me three years ago, giving us and update of his life:
Jody, I wrote you almost 3 years ago, now. I’m a bisexual man who’d just met Jim after a 13-year marriage to Lois, and 2+ years of dating men and women. Lois was completely developing partnership with Jim, and had really begun to sour the kids against me and Jim, who were planning to move in together. Overall, you suggested being sensitive with the kids (and possibly family counseling), giving everything time, and following my heart.
I’m happy to send you an update! Jim and I just celebrated 3 years together, bought a home, and we and the kids love our new life. My oldest, who’s 16, still has a little trouble sometimes, but I’m convinced most of her issues are related to the divorce, not my sexual orientation. My youngest loves Jim, and he’s an incredible stepdad. Even Lois is slowly, SLOWLY, getting with the program.
Thanks for your advice 3 years ago, and thanks for providing a service to (and entertaining!) our community.
“I cannot and will not cut my conscience to fit this year’s fashions.”
Lillian Hellman (1905 – 1984), letter to Committee on Un-American Activities of the House of Representatives, May 19, 1952