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Kink 101

By | 2006-09-14T09:00:00-04:00 September 14th, 2006|News|

Fetish: A specific obsession (or focus, delight) in one object or experience
Vanilla: Not in the lifestyle (any alternative lifestyle) also used as a derogative to describe “conventional sexual behavior.” Meaning “plain” or “conventional”
Sadism: The act of inflicting pain
Sadist: Person who enjoys inflicting pain
Masochism: Act of receiving pain for sensual/sexual pleasure
Masochist: Person who enjoys pain
Bondage: Restraints used for sensual/sexual pleasure
Domme: Female who takes control (aka: Mistress, Ma’am, Miss, Goddess, Lady)
Dom: Male who takes control (aka: Sir, Master)
Professional Dominatrix (Pro Domme): Female professional domme receives payment for services. NON SEXUAL
Submission: A person of their own free will, seeks to submit to another person (aka sub)
Service-Oriented subs: Deep desire to be “of use”
Slave: Person who gives up a great amount of control in an ongoing D/s relationship
boy/boi: Widely applied to male submissives where it may also refer to the sumissive partner in a daddy/boy relationship. Also used in lesbian culture to denote a male-identified (but biologically female) bottom.*
Switch: Someone who likes being both Dom(me) and submissive.
Top: Dominant person in a scene
Bottom: One who gives up control in a scene
Collared: sub or slave who is owned.

BDSM

B&D: Bondage and Discipline
D&S: Domination and Submission
S&M: Sadism & Masochism

SSC: Safe, sane and consensual

Safe: Attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health
Sane: Activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible cast of mind
Consensual: All activities should involve the full informed consent of all parties involved.

RACK

Other people in the BDSM community do not consider SSC to be an accurate term for these relationships/activities. The term Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is sometimes used as a substitute description.
RACK is intended to embrace edgeplay and play that is engaged in without safewords.

*”Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex,” Dr. Gloria G. Brame

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