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Kink 101

By |2006-09-14T09:00:00-04:00September 14th, 2006|News|

Fetish: A specific obsession (or focus, delight) in one object or experience
Vanilla: Not in the lifestyle (any alternative lifestyle) also used as a derogative to describe “conventional sexual behavior.” Meaning “plain” or “conventional”
Sadism: The act of inflicting pain
Sadist: Person who enjoys inflicting pain
Masochism: Act of receiving pain for sensual/sexual pleasure
Masochist: Person who enjoys pain
Bondage: Restraints used for sensual/sexual pleasure
Domme: Female who takes control (aka: Mistress, Ma’am, Miss, Goddess, Lady)
Dom: Male who takes control (aka: Sir, Master)
Professional Dominatrix (Pro Domme): Female professional domme receives payment for services. NON SEXUAL
Submission: A person of their own free will, seeks to submit to another person (aka sub)
Service-Oriented subs: Deep desire to be “of use”
Slave: Person who gives up a great amount of control in an ongoing D/s relationship
boy/boi: Widely applied to male submissives where it may also refer to the sumissive partner in a daddy/boy relationship. Also used in lesbian culture to denote a male-identified (but biologically female) bottom.*
Switch: Someone who likes being both Dom(me) and submissive.
Top: Dominant person in a scene
Bottom: One who gives up control in a scene
Collared: sub or slave who is owned.


B&D: Bondage and Discipline
D&S: Domination and Submission
S&M: Sadism & Masochism

SSC: Safe, sane and consensual

Safe: Attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health
Sane: Activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible cast of mind
Consensual: All activities should involve the full informed consent of all parties involved.


Other people in the BDSM community do not consider SSC to be an accurate term for these relationships/activities. The term Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is sometimes used as a substitute description.
RACK is intended to embrace edgeplay and play that is engaged in without safewords.

*”Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex,” Dr. Gloria G. Brame

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