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Perspective for the New Year

By |2006-05-01T09:00:00-04:00May 1st, 2006|Uncategorized|

By John Corvino

New Year’s is a time for looking at where we’ve been and where we’re going. It’s a time for resolutions, such as “I resolve not to eat so much and spend so much during next year’s holiday season.” (Yeah, sure.)
As a college professor, I tend to organize my life in terms of the academic calendar, not the regular calendar. Years begin in September and end in May, and June through August is “free time,” sort of. Actually, it bugs me when people tell me I have summers “off”: just because I’m not TEACHING doesn’t mean I’m not WORKING, okay? Or do you think my articles and columns write themselves?
(Memo to self: resolve to be less defensive in 2005.)
So when New Year’s rolls around, the “year” I look back on has really been only four months long. And how has the last four months been?
Pretty shitty, actually.
Before reacting, do me a favor. Please do not tell me, “Yes, I understand. That horrible ELECTION…”
I agree that the election was upsetting. But to give you some perspective, let me tell you about my life over the last few months:
Early September: I am harassed by a large, armed Texas State trooper who after seeing me kiss another guy tells me that “homosexual conduct is against the law.” Although I cite Lawrence v. Texas and point out that Texas state law NEVER banned mere kissing, he maintains his position. I relent, he lets me go, and the following week I file a formal complaint. (More on that later.)
Late September: A close friend commits suicide. 32 years old, bright, attractive, talented. Now dead. Turns out that, among various other problems, he had become involved with crystal meth.
Early October: My grandmother dies. Certainly more expected than my friend’s death, but still a terrible blow. She was one of the first people I came out to, and she’s always been one of my great supporters. Grandma Tess, rest in peace.
Late October: One week after burying his mother, my father is fired from his job. He and my mother decide to leave NY and retire to Texas, close to my sister, where the cost of living is better. (Be sure to say hi to my favorite trooper!). I am briefly reminded that Dad, my hero, is not invincible.
Early November: the election. Yes, it’s bad. But by comparison with other things happening in my life, it seems like a minor blip.
Late November: my sister undergoes surgery. She’s fine, but Mom and Dad – who have had their share of challenges in the past month-are further drained emotionally.
Early December: I discover that I need a new roof on my house – soon. A very costly new roof. (Better not ask Dad for help.)
So, how am I doing?
Just fine, thank you.
Abraham Lincoln once said that most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. He was right.
This is not to say that we don’t face challenges that threaten our well-being. But if we constantly dwell on the challenges, and never look at the “bright side,” we’re guaranteed to be miserable.
Admittedly, there is no “bright side” to a friend’s suicide. But I am thankful for my own health and well-being. I’m thankful, too, that my sister is recovering well.
I’m thankful for 35 years of knowing a wonderful grandmother. Some people never know their grandparents. I knew all four (two still living) as well as five of my eight great-grandparents.
I’m thankful that my parents, who worked hard for many years, are able to retire comfortably. I’m thankful that, although I’ll have to tighten my belt in 2005, somehow I’m managing to pay for my new roof.
Speaking of which, I was also thankful to discover (after I hired them!) that my roofers advertise in Between The Lines. Thank you, Chess Home Improvements.
I’m thankful that I live in a country that holds regular elections. I’m thankful that my partner and I have a wonderful life together, even without recognition from the shortsighted Michigan voters who supported Proposal 2. I’m thankful we have the freedoms that we do.
And I’m thankful that the ignorant trooper who harassed me is being put on six months probation, was given a formal written reprimand, and will be required to take additional classes on Texas state law. Sometimes the system does work.
2004 wasn’t so bad after all. Resolve to be happy in 2005.

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Between The Lines has been publishing LGBTQ-related content in Southeast Michigan since the early '90s. This year marks the publication's 27th anniversary.