By Jerome Stuart Nichols
As with most matters of the heart, the love and intimate connection you share in a romantic relationship is enough of a gift on its own. But – to keep things exciting – sometimes you need to make a purchase or two. With St. Valentine's Day just a few days away, it's more important than ever to find the right something that will give you two – or three – something to scream about.
To pick the right gift for Valentine's Day, one must take a lot of variables into consideration: What does your partner want? What do you want? Where's the common ground?
While you are buying a gift for someone else, the intimate nature of the day means you have to enjoy it too. The simplest solution is to look to the day itself for inspiration. Since Valentine's Day is a holiday made to celebrate romantic entanglements of all sorts, why not try to spend some time getting reacquainted with one another?
On Valentine's, it's important to offer your partner a gift that shows your partner how much you care about their well-being. For this, any ol' orifice could suffice. But this is a special day, you want to leave a lasting impression – it might be time to get a little hands-on.
"A great way to make things more special is reconnecting in the bedroom with your significant other," says Kathyrn Todd, senior consultant with romantic aide sales company Pure Romance.
A sensual massage is a great excuse to get naked and spend some quality time exploring every supple nook and cranny of their body.
"It's relaxing and usually leads right into foreplay – and, um, everyone can take it from there," Todd says.
With massage oils and creams, you get your choice of many different scents, effects and – of course – flavors. At Pure Romance alone, they offer a candle that melts into massage oil and aroma therapy lotion, among others. Todd was particularly fond of their Hot Heart Massager, a heat pack that gives the sensation of a hot stone massage.
Not every grouping will need or want to spend hours working on their intimacy; some want to get right to creating a fifty-first shade of Grey. There's plenty of gifting options for the impatient. Here are a few:
Vibrating Cock Ring
The cock ring works by restricting blood flow out of the penis, which results in harder, stronger erections. With the addition of a vibrating bullet, each stroke will be even better. The person on top won't be complaining either. Pure Romance Wireless Double Trouble Ring, $39.
Your guy can use it alone or you both can use it together. Great for mutual masturbation and to help him out when you're otherwise indisposed. Super Stretch Lips, $29.
It's angled for the g-spot but it's the most versatile of all vibrators. Use them on the vulva or in the vagina. Because of the angle, it makes prostate play a reality even if you're a bit tied up. The Marilyn, $59.
Classic Strap-On Dildo
Get the thrusting action you want or simply double your efficiency. L.O.L. Strap-on harness, $39.
If you want to try something new but need a little help getting things going, Todd suggests exploring those fantasies with games. According to Todd, games "help open the lines of communication, especially on taboo subjects. It just gets couples talking about things that they normally wouldn't bring up in a normal conversation." Pick something that allows each of you to ask questions and explore each other's minds. Old college stand-bys like Truth or Dare and Never Have I Ever… could do the trick. Or, you know, you could just buy a dildo.